Is Stress Always Negative?

Stress is Not Always Negative!

I just experienced one of the most stressful months of my life, but it was definitely one of the happiest, most memorable.  My oldest son married his high school sweetheart, the love of his life. A woman who loves, respects, and cherishes him as I do.

A major life event can be stressful for anyone.  Someone who has an anxiety disorder, or any other mental illness, may have a more difficult time adjusting. It does not mean they aren’t happy about the change, it is just their body’s reaction. On my wedding day, I started feeling an anxiety attack coming on right before the ceremony began.  I couldn’t wait to marry my husband, and I was counting down the days until our wedding day.  The emotions I felt, the love, anticipation, excitement, and even a little nervousness put my brain on overload. I started to mentally shut down at the worst time.  Thankfully, I powered through it and we will be celebrating our 20th anniversary next month.

We had 10 months to prepare for my son’s big day.  Eight or Nine of those month were pretty uneventful for us.  Next thing I knew, we were down to a month before their wedding day.  For me, panic set in.  I had to make sure my dress still fit, and that I had shoes and jewelry to match.  My daughter was the Junior Bridesmaid.  I had to make sure her dress still fit, her shoes were still the same size, and how she was going to wear her hair.  How would I wear my hair? All of these things seem pretty simple, but for someone with anxiety, it can almost be unbearable.

The wedding day arrived and everything went beautifully.  The day was over in a flash and I have a wonderful daughter-in-law now.  I couldn’t be happier for them.  So you can see that these two occasions I mentioned were positive and welcomed changes in my life, however, they still were very difficult for me to get through.  It is one week after the wedding and I still feel mentally exhausted.

Stress and anxiety can come in all forms.  What might make me anxious might sound silly to you and vice versa.  Stress isn’t always brought on by negative things, including finances or a stressful job.  For me, it can be a wedding, birth of a child or even changing to a better job.  What is your main cause of stress?  I would love to hear from you!

Misunderstood

I am often misunderstood.  I am misunderstood by people that are very close to me, and people I barely know.  I blame my anxiety.

A few nights ago, I was making dinner.  I had a good day and was excited to spend some quality time with my family. I was listening to the television that was on in the other room as I was preparing the asparagus for the grill.  The volume was turned up so my husband could hear it over the the dogs growling & running around the house, sounding like a herd of elephants.  My daughter was sitting at the dinner table nearby watching a goofy Youtube video.  She was laughing and kept asking me to watch it. Her iPad volume was extremely loud, probably because of all the other commotion in the house.  I felt myself starting to tense up and shake.  The dogs come sliding towards me on the hard wood floor.  “DAMN IT! KEEP THESE DOGS OUT OF THE KITCHEN!  I’M TRYING TO GET SUPPER READY!” As tears are running down my cheeks, my husband looks at me like I am from some other planet.  As he walks away, he rolls his eyes.  Continue reading